TIS THE SEASON

For those of you who wonder why things are suddenly going wrong in your relationship, that's because summer is rapidly catching up to us. I mean, sure, you'll stay together fighting during spring (that's when he/she will find your replacement) then call a "quit" the begining of summer. If you believe your love can move mountains, you have nothing to worry about... well let's just hope your significant other feels the same way.

Let's say a couple makes it official around June. During the summer you'll go to barbeques together, picnics, dinners, and even a fimily reunion--he wants to show off his prize. Months go by and now we're in a new season... November perhaps. This is when you'll probably have your first real argument. It's only been six moths into the relationship, but you feel like its been a year. Months and months go by and another season has come and gone. SPRING is here! Things haven't been going well and you've probably broken up once or twice already. You question where exactly this relationship is going.

You will, eventually, get into this "do or die" argument that only has two questions at the end. Do you want to make this relationship work, or are you willing to let it die? He's probably thinking whatever you decide will also be his final decision--BUT he will start looking for a back up (replacement).

So... you're working towards making it better and he's not meeting you halfway. That's because he is innfatuated with the replacements representative.
--Representative: (rêp-re-zent-u-tïv) noun; the person you pretend to be the first few months in a relationship.

You'll finally get tired of him and concentrate on yourself. Kudos to you! Too bad you'll just find yourself falling into the arms of a rebound.

The toughest task is trying to stay away from that cycle. It's a hard job, but many have accomplished it. Knowing what you need in a man and knowing what you're worth is the first steps in breaking that cycle of seasonal catastrophic relationships. I would say enjoy the ride, but hopping on that ride too fast is what gets you into these positions.

Word of advice-- you must be true to yourself before you can be true to somebody else.